Comments on: Its a big girl world now…

By: 11.21.08 « Lindsay Guard

11.21.08 « Lindsay Guard — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:46:05 +0000

[...] on a scrapbook of letters people wrote to Ryan to tell him how much they love him. I wrote him a letter from the baby and made a page for it in the back of the book. That two day wait was torture. I [...]

By: Kim Robinson

Kim Robinson — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 01:16:23 +0000

Lindsay,
I had no idea. I want you to know that I am committed to pray for you and your feelings and your strength. I will pray for clarity and for new life. I myself had a miscarriage between Maddy and Ty. Actually the exact same way that you did. When I was reading it just kept bringing up memories for me. I also had no clue as to how common it a miscarriage is until I had one and shared with others and then they shared their story with me. I dream about my baby I lost even though I never knew her. Not even sure it was a girl but that is what I dream about. I am always here if you want to just talk or whatever. But I am going to pray and be committed to it. Please keep me posted on your journey and please let me know if there is anything I can ever do for you.
-Kim Robinson

By: Allison Yates

Allison Yates — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 01:56:31 +0000

Hi Lindsay…thanks for sharing your story. I will be praying for you and Ryan as God brings you to my mind. I have experienced a miscarriage and so I know what you are going through. It would have been our 4th child and my kids still on occasion talk about the baby that we lost. (It’s been 6 years) God is good and gives us the grace that we need to get through these tough times. I think that sharing your story is one of the best things you could have done. It takes courage to do that and it is so obvious that you are relying on the Lord for strength. I believe one day we will be together with our child in heaven and you and Ryan the same. Just think of what a reunion it will be. I pray God’s blessing on you and Ryan. Love, Allison

By: ryanguard

ryanguard — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:48:27 +0000

I’m really proud of you for sharing all of this. You’ve been so strong. Thank you.

By: amaris

amaris — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 15:08:08 +0000

i wish i could just reach through this computer and wrap my arms around you! thank you for speaking freely…for you and for us…and as you’ve said…for the Kingdom. love you, lindsay! may Hope continue to grow and light the future love you and Ryan will bring your little ones.

By: suttonl4

suttonl4 — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 02:34:10 +0000

I am glad that you have found the strength to talk about your experience and the even greater strength and wisdom to not “blame” God to see it as his will for your life at this time in your life. There are so many things that I wish was different in my life but I know that God has it all undr control. Keep praying, and sometimes you can’t even do that because of the weight on your heart. Just know that God hears our hearts even when we are not saying a word!

By: Alex

Alex — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 15:20:39 +0000

xoxo! this blog post alone is a huge part of healing as we talked about yesterday. God has already used the loss of your first baby in powerful ways! you’re always in my prayers. xoxo!

By: lindsayguard

lindsayguard — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 14:35:41 +0000

Thanks for all your kind words, encouragement, and prayer. I hope this post serves a much bigger purpose than I even planned!

Brenda, thank you for sharing your story. Miscarriage can feel like a shameful thing for a woman because we’re “supposed” to be able to carry a baby. Its probably equivalent to a man getting laid off….we feel like a failure even though its not our fault but we’ve so wrongly been taught that that’s how we’re valuable. There is nothing more bonding than sharing a painful experience with someone else who gets it.

Natalie and Nicky, I know questioning God when it comes to your children is not an unfamiliar thing to both of you. You both have such strength and you’re an encouragement to the rest of us!

Patti, miss you! Thanks for physically being there for me in January. Wish I could go spend a day at Disneyland with you again

By: Natalie

Natalie — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 07:13:39 +0000

Hi Lindsay,
Your words were beautiful and honest and vulnerable and so honoring to the Lord. I remember having the same revelation in my mid-20s when several friends and my sister-in-law experienced miscarriage – I’d had no idea it was so common or so painful to process through. And then in my mid-30s a very similar revelation as friends and my sister faced the equally painful process of infertility.

I truly believe miscarriage, infertility, stillbirth, birth defects, childhood illnesses and disorders are all things we will never understand “why?” while we are on this earth. But we can stay true to God in our struggle, even as we wrestle with him, and somehow find ourselves wiser and more grace-filled because of it.

You are awesome.
Natalie

By: josh

josh — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 06:56:26 +0000

thanks for being so honest and vulnerable. may God use this in some way. prayin’ for you guys.